Haha, literally, I was reading the newest comic, then I left for about one minute, then I come back and there’s a new comic 0_0
I’ve never seen a sewer manhole in a boardwalk. access hatches for a house’s connections, but no sewer access.
Yeah, well. What can I say. In the region I live there aren’t.
Two of the images in the listing you linked seem to be from around this country, but they are on streets as well (cobblestone pavement with tarmack on the sidewalk / bicycle lane)
Well, you are not completely wrong. I am a civil engineer, one of those guys who design drainage systems. Manholes are most commonly in the street, it makes installation and maintenance easier, among other reasons. However, there are times when you have to put them in the sidewalk.
Sometimes, I’m glad I’m not a girl. Also hate to be that guy in the comic, so I don’t flirt. Also never had a girlfriend, just because I’m too kind and don’t want to be a nuisance.. Is there a middle ground in this?
See wannabe_elf’s comment. Just be polite and gauge her reaction. If she doesn’t want to talk, just let it go.
Also, context of where you attempt to connect is everything. A girl hanging out relaxing at a bar or something might be more open to starting a conversation with a stranger. If they’re walking down the street or sitting on a bus, that’s probably because they’re on their way someplace, and so are less likely to have time to stop and chat.
People telling me to smile is why I practice my serial killer grin in the mirror.
In all seriousness though, I don’t if a guy wants to do a cold approach as long as he doesn’t use negging, tell me that I should smile, or try to follow me when I walk away. By all means come up to me and say hi, just pay attention to my reaction when you do, it should be pretty obvious if I’m not interested or feeling threatened.
I watch a video like this https://youtu.be/tjLdhcg8mTs and suddenly I feel awful. I’ve never yelled bawdy comments or sexually harassed anyone (to my knowledge), but I get mad at my fellow males for doing so. It also makes me afraid to initiate conversations with girls, because I don’t want to step on any toes.
This is why shaming will never be an effective tool for inducing change.
Pointing out that a problem exists isn’t the same thing as shaming.
Agreed – also having a hard time understanding how someone can’t distinguish between sexual intimidation/harassment and simple conversation, to the point of fearing the latter might be mistaken for the former. Completely different things – there shouldn’t be any fear of talking to women if you’re treating them like people.
The best way to avoid stepping on toes is to pay attention to how the woman you’re speaking to reacts to you. Short, uninformative answers mean she’s done talking to you and you should offer to leave. If you can’t think of anything else to say to her, say you’re heading off. If you wanted to spend more time with her? Offer to leave. If she wants to spend more time with you, she’ll try to find a discussion topic, or else she’ll somehow say “I will be in this location at this time.”
It will be specific.
She might say she’s going to continue to be in her current location until a certain time, or she might say she’ll be in a different, specific location in a few minutes, in an hour. “I’m gonna go dance/get a drink/do this venue-specific thing” is not specific and NOT an invitation. Leave that woman alone.
“I’m going to hang out at the bar until I finish my next drink/my friend comes for me/for an hour” is specific, and an invitation. “I’m going to dance until the club closes/my friends make me leave/midnight” is specific and an invitation. THIS ONLY APPLIES IF YOU HAVEN’T SPECIFICALLY ASKED. If you specifically asked what she’s going to be up to yet, she’ll answer to be polite, but it’s not an invitation.
Basically, unless you have a cognitive impairment that makes it difficult or impossible for you to recognize the feelings of others, you can learn how to not skeeve out women.
Safety first! Unless there are douche-bags around…
As my dad would say, ‘Act like you seen a woman before!’
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